Lack of self-esteem, or fear Bindungssucht and dependence are often the result of old childhood wounds. Working with the inner child can help.
To whom it lacked in childhood deprivation, which is often not happy as an adult. The good news is that by working with the inner child can see you heal the wounds of the past and more self-acceptance, creativity and vitality.
What is the inner child?
Although we have grown long, lives in each of us an inner child. Few are aware of it now really. The inner child is the living side of us, including, for example, spontaneity, enthusiasm, curiosity, openness, and also the ability in the here and now to be able to. But the inner child also has another facet: the vulnerability, the search for confirmation and recognition. If the reflective adults and the inner child in contact and are consistent, then there is a sense of wholeness. The inner child often reveals itself in decisions between common sense and gut feeling.
The separation of the inner child
Once you learn as a child, little love or even a lot of pain, the probability is high that one rejects the inner child as an adult, because you do not want to feel those emotions again. By cutting off the painful feelings but also the perception of positive emotions and avoid a feeling of emptiness, of loneliness and depression manifests itself. A deep contact with others is not connected to itself but not possible. The results are often dependent relationship patterns in the partnership.
The rejected inner child is powerful. It becomes apparent in impulsive behavior. Thus, for example, cause even slight criticism of inappropriate responses. On the other side’s own wishes and feelings are suppressed, to be loved in the assumption that if one withdraws itself and adapts.
Who is home to an unloved inner child in himself, is convinced that he himself can not make you happy that he can not stand pain and rejection. He makes others responsible for his feelings and tries to control other’s behavior and manipulate. Even he wants, however, escape any control, although he also longs for nothing more to be accepted as the way he is.
What does work with the inner child?
The way how we deal with our inner child is crucial to everything else in our lives. Who gets to be his inner child with a loving adult, learns
* Dependence on the affection and recognition of others by taking responsibility for one’s own feelings and their own wellbeing.
* Increased self-esteem, because he lives in their own hands, takes its own perceived needs and wishes again and this also allowed and satisfied.
* More zest for life by admitting, „childlike“ qualities such as curiosity, spontaneity, absurdity, etc.
* More sensitive to your feelings. Dreams, desires and pleasure are perceived more intense pain and grief are not pushed away, but accepted and processed by it.
* Healing psychological wounds from childhood.
How do you learn to work with the inner child?
There are now a whole lot of literature that allow a deeper insight into the topic. Most Guides are practical with an exercise component, so that one can even begin work. Who wants to go deeper, makes his way in the best hands of a psychotherapist who works with the inner child or attend one of the many workshops or seminars on the subject.